The relationship between pain and pleasure in human sexuality is as profound as it is complex. It is a polarity that lives in each of us and deserves our curiosity. Sadly, it is not unusual for us to close down to situations that we fear will bring pain and discomfort. Replacing our tendency of avoidance with a capacity for wonder when it comes to our pain associations with sex is eye opening and has the potential to release an untapped capacity for pleasure. Each time I have sex I am struck by the ecstatic release of deep pleasure, which ignites an equal release of intense pain.
When Pleasure Turns to Pain: Causes (and Solutions) for Painful Sex
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Secret to success is learning how to use pain and pleasure, instead of having pain and pleasure use you. The pain-pleasure principle lies at the core of everything you do, and of everything you are. Your beliefs, values and psychological rules are all built upon this principle. The decisions you make, the actions you take, and the habits you indulge in, are all based on this principle. In fact, every part of your psyche is influenced in some way by the pain-pleasure principle.
People experience pleasure during a painful stimulus if the stimulus turns out to be less bad than they were expecting, new research suggests. To see how people perceived pain, Leknes and her colleagues hooked 16 participants up to a device that applied a variable level of painful heat to their arms. At the same time, the researchers measured their brain activity using magnetic resonance imaging MRI scans. In the first setting, participants experienced a series of either a slightly painful stimulus — about as painful as grasping a slightly too hot cup of coffee — or no pain. In a second setup, the participants experienced a series of either moderate or intense pain.